-"TWO babies?! You are going to be so broke!" First off, Rusty and I are responsible adults. Before making the decision the start a family, we made sure that we were financially stable. Yes, children are expensive. That is why we live on a budget and live within our means. Way to point out the fact that more people = more expenses, Captain Obvious.
-"You are going to be so tired...all the time." Yes, we will be tired. Once again, way to point out the obvious. Life will not cease to exist if we are low on sleep.
-"Twin GIRLS? I'm sorry Rusty." This comment pisses me off the MOST. It comes mostly from men- surprise, surprise. First off, those are my babies you are taking about- Watch your mouth. You really don't want to piss off Mama Bear. Secondly, what is SO terrible about girls? Last time I checked, if it wasn't for a strong, loving, woman, you wouldn't be here. Rusty is going to make a wonderful daddy to two little girls. Children are a gift from God- no matter what their gender may be. Yes, Rusty will be swimming in the Estrogen Ocean, but he is so excited about being a hero to two little princesses. There is something so special about a Daddy/Daughter relationship. I know because my first love was my daddy. I am so excited for Hadley and Ava James to experience that relationship with their Daddy.
-"Your house will never be clean again." Yes, my house will be clean. Will it be as organized as it is currently? Doubtful!!! If you really knew how much of a clean freak I am (Rusty too), you would not make stupid comments such as that.
-"You will never get your figure back. Your body will never be the same!" REALLY? You mean pregnancy changes a woman's body...who knew?!
-"Good luck (spoken in the most sarcastic tone imaginable)" This just ticks me off...(giving the stink eye). I don't need your "luck"- Thanks, but no thanks. I need your prayers- as does EVERY parent.
-"Twins? Better you than me." Ya' dang right!!!! God chose this path for Rusty and I because He knows that we can handle it. I see that as a compliment. He didn't chose you as a parent of twins for a reason :)
-"Life as you know it is over." Life will change...but it's not over. Only a moron would expect things to remain the same.
-"Are you going to breastfeed?" None ya' dang business. If I do, great. If I don't, that doesn't make me a bad mother. Last time I checked you are not a doctor or a lactation consultant, so get off me.
-"Twins? Did you take fertility treatments?" Once again, none ya' dang business...but as a matter of fact, yes we did. Which means I am more thankful for these two little miracles than anyone could possible imagine!
-"Have fun while you can, before the babies get here." Why? Because after you have children, life sucks?!
I am sure I have left out so many...but these are the majority of the comments that Rusty or I hear on a daily basis.
I will never understand why so many people feel that they have to "warn" you with unnecessary threats and comments. Rusty and I understand that life will change. We also understand that we will be tired, have more expenses, the house might be dirty, and I might weigh a little more. However, those are all things that we are willing to live with. Having one, two, or three children does not make you an expert on pregnancy, parenting, and childcare. You might think it does, but it doesn't. Each pregnancy, child, and parent is different. I appreciate advice, I really do. But I DON'T appreciate "scary stories" about how terrible life is going to be after Hadley and Ava James arrive.
Sorry for the vent session...I just had to get it all off my chest once and for all!!!
In closing, let me say this...Children are gifts from God. Rusty and I are so blessed to be pregnant with these two little miracles. I refuse to let any rude comment or question change my view on that. I know there will be days where I will be exhausted and frustrated, but God chose Rusty and I to be the parents to two of HIS children. That is such a compliment and we are forever grateful.
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